Dad's Eulogy read by Hugh

Created by Retushguh 3 years ago
Dad was Born at home in Langley Road, Slough on 14th August 1930, weighing 10 Ibs. and died at Wexham Park Hospital on 21st January 2021.
Dad attended Long Close and Windsor House schools until he was 11 when he went to Queen’s Collage until 1948. He was not academic and was often in trouble with his parents because he preferred to mow the cricket pitch rather than study.
During the years 1948-1955, he was learning the retail trade at Heeleys (furniture) and Storeys (removals) on Tottenham Court Rd. and little did he know that Mum was at just round the corner at UCH!
He joined Suters the family store in 1955 as Junior sales, soft furnishing, moving to toys and fireworks, although his real interest was buildings and maintenance. We had some great fireworks at home from the “left-overs”.
In 1956 Dad met Anne (Mum) at a midwives’ leaving party and they married in Sept 1957 and moved into Castleview Rd, Slough.
In 1958, Dad joined the Suters board as Buildings director. Hugh was born that year and Robin in 1960.
In 1963, Dad oversaw the installation of the escalators in the Uxbridge store (a first for Uxbridge). In Sept that year the family moved to Beaconsfield. He always came home for lunch as it was half-way between the two stores, one in Uxbridge, one in Slough.
In 1964-68, he rebuilt and developed the Slough store, now Debenhams, attached to Queensmere shopping centre. In mid 1970s, a new warehouse was built for Suters not far from slough railway station.
In 1966 he was chairman of the Uxbridge Chamber of Commerce and hated it. Too many meetings, and speeches, not Dad’s forte at all.
We had many a caravan holiday in western France, playing in the sea, leaving dad under pines trees and awning, wearing long-sleeved shirt and trousers, and still managing to get sun-burnt! One year we landed in Cherbourg on Bastille Day with a flat car battery, quite a challenge to find a new one!
In 1978, Suters was sold to Owen & Owen and Dad joined SSVC as a seating engineer until his retirement in 1995, travelled around the country servicing the cinema seats within Military bases. 
In 1979, he bought a student hovel in Cardiff while I was at the university there. Dad renovated it, with my hindrance. The doors were off their hinges, there was hole through to the next door’s small courtyard, floor supports were no longer in the walls. Eventually, it was a home for me and three other students.
In retirement, he volunteered as a driver for the Thursday lunch club, sometimes doing four separate pickups and returns in a day. 
In 2002, Mum and Dad moved to St Joseph’s Mews.
During the last 25 years of his life, Dad was fighting ill health, Diabetes, failing eyesight and bowel cancer.
Throughout his life, sport, DIY and gardening were his relaxation. His vegetable garden at Lower Drive, kept him busy, double digging in the winter and spring, adding home matured compost, to ensure the vegetables, and especially the runner beans all grew well. Heaps of vegetables were grown, and guests invited to dinner were asked to bring bags for the produce they took home. At St Joseph’s, he installed the flagpole and was general factotum. Each year, he planted flowers at the entrance and in the latter years, the roadway into the mews. 
Anne and Tony loved travelling. They enjoyed trips to Canada, South Africa, Europe including river boat trips, and National Trust day trips and mini breaks. It was on their trip back from Canada in 1982 when they meet Sheila – a young Canadian girl on her first trip to Europe and invited her home. Sheila joined the family as an honorary daughter much loved by Anne and Tony.
In his bachelor years Dad played badminton, rugby, and cricket. He continued to play badminton and cricket after he was married and started two mid-week cricket teams at Slough Cricket Club, which continued for 20 years. He was awarded the Oetzmann cup and was invited by England Cricket to take a team to play Crossarrows CC at Lords. Dad does hold a Slough CC 1st. Xl record: highest 3rd. wicket partnership of 183 against High Wycombe in 1953. He also played for the Fiddlers on Sundays. A medal was awarded at each game for some outstanding piece of cricket and the recipient had to buy a watering can of their favourite drink, in Dad’s case brown ale, which only came in bottles! One of his other favourite moments was playing cricket against Robin and me in the Old Boy’s game; the scorebook recorded A Suter, caught H Suter, bowled R Suter. As the ground got further away and the cricket ball hurt more, he switched to squash and then to golf. He was often up at 4 am to bag his tee-slot at Harefield public course. He joined Hazelmere Golf club in 1982 and was a member until 2002. He was known as “slasher Suter” because of his left-handed cricket drives. Anne joined Hazelmere in 1986 and Dad supported Mum during her captaincy in 1992. He was once seen in “drag” (yellow-tights, wig with rollers) at a charity event and allowed to play off the ladies’ tees. Subsequently, he joined Hazelmere bowls club, until his sight started to fail.
Dad loved doing DIY and always had the right tool or replacement part. He refurbished the kitchen in Lower Drive, including under floor heating and the electrics at his own considered pace. Mum had to cook with microwave for 10 months! When he visited his brothers in Spain, he was inevitably asked to do some repair or other.
Dad was a quiet and gentle man, always pottering away, fixing things, smiling, doing stuff in the background. He was an incredibly devoted husband, caring father and a supportive elder brother to Ian and Michael. As “Grandie” as he was called by his grandchildren, he rejoiced in all their achievements. Dad will be missed, his quiet unassuming presence and gentle smile. A gentleman in every sense. I finish with the words from his school hymn ………
“God be with you until we meet again”.